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Job seeker felt frustrated by application process and decided to start his own business

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Chris Fong, 25, who lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. In March 2025, he was laid off from a tech startup. After about nine months of searching for a job, he started a content-creation business. The following has been edited for brevity and clarity.

I worked at a tech startup for a little over a year. I was doing revenue operations, which is the intersection of acquiring customers and keeping them happy.

After I got laid off, I decided to take a month off to travel. I thought it would be easy to bounce back because I was already talking to a few companies. The problem is that it’s much easier to get a job when you’re working. There’s still a lot of stigma when you’re unemployed.

I came back to a terrible job market. My routine was wake up, hop on LinkedIn, apply for jobs, see if I get interviews, get my hopes up throughout the rounds — and eventually not land the role. Companies know they have the upper hand, so they can be picky.

In December, I was like, “What am I doing?” I saw this as a cycle I didn’t want to continue. When I started posting videos online, I needed to get this energy out there. I was feeling frustrated and needed an outlet to express myself because I knew I wasn’t the only one dealing with this. It really came from a place of being at a breaking point.

I started posting generic life advice, which is kind of funny, because I was in no place to tell people how to better themselves when I wasn’t employed. I had zero followers for maybe the first few weeks. That’s when I was like, “It’d be better for me to just tell my story and be this voice for unemployment.”

When I first posted a video about unemployment — how it tests you mentally — it got some traction. It went from 4,000 views to 10,000 to 20,000. At that point, I was like, “I think I have something here.” People like to see that they’re not the only ones struggling.

So I kept posting. I tried to post every day for most of January, and then one of my videos about how unemployment affects your sense of worth went viral, and has almost 1.7 million views.

With many of these videos, I wanted to point out the elephant in the room: This job market sucks, and it’s messing with my identity. It was hard to be that vulnerable at first.

I’ve found a new path

After a while, I decided to build something on my own. I started helping tech startups with user-generated content. I develop the creative strategy for what startups want their product messaging to be. Then, after creating a hook or script, I source creators to film and produce the short-form content.

I do a lot of outreach to founders, offering my services or working for them for a short time. Even if my agency doesn’t work out, maybe they’ll like my work enough to bring me on full-time. I can’t really lose in this situation when I’m building my own thing.

It’s been rehabilitative. Four or five months ago, I was stuck in my room, applying to jobs, hoping something would land, while my roommates were working and actually having lives. I was running low on my savings, so I didn’t have much runway left.

It’s funny that I decided to tell my story because I was frustrated with the situation, and now I’ve found a new path for myself.

For the first time in months, I’m busy. I’m running my own content channel. I am helping this startup run their content systems, and I’m working with a music nonprofit.

It’s good to be busy. It’s given me confidence, because when people ask me what I do, I can tell them. In America, we’re so obsessed about what we do for work, which is good and bad. But now I can have an answer, instead of saying I’m still looking for a job.

Start something and see where it goes

I’ve completely stopped applying for jobs. It’s a waste of my time. I’m more likely to get a job from doing this business because I’m reaching out to founders.

So much of the market has changed. These interviews are clearly not working. It’s now more about thinking outside the box. I’m not saying that everyone should do content creation, but find something that you like doing.

This journey has taught me that you need to trust yourself. You need to bet on your own abilities, because not everyone is going to be betting on you. Recruiters are not going to bet on you. Employers won’t see your value. If you know you’re good enough and you have a lot of ideas, you can start something and see where it goes. Don’t wait for someone to hand you an opportunity.

Do you have a story to share about your job search? Contact this reporter at tparadis@businessinsider.com.




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I wasn’t sure if my daughter was ready to sleep over at a friend’s on her own. I decided to join her.

I was excited when my daughter Aria was invited to spend the night at a friend’s house. While I realize not everyone experiences this rite of passage or even needs to, I view it as a nice milestone.

Cozy sleeping bags, tasty snacks, movie marathons, and laughing with friends way past bedtime can make for fun, fond memories. I was not allowed to sleep over anywhere until middle school, and even then, it was a tough sell to my mom.

Despite my enthusiasm, I still had some trepidation about letting Aria sleep over. I had known her friend’s parents for a while, and I trusted them fully, so that part wasn’t an issue. Rather, I was unsure how Aria would do on her own: would she get scared in the dark, as she sometimes does at home? Would the sleeping arrangements be comfortable? Would she be warm enough? Too warm, perhaps?

These and other concerns swirled around in my head.

I want to foster her independence

Fostering independence is important to me as a parent, but it is also important that Aria feels OK. The other mom and I talked; she understood and had even more concerns for her child sleeping at someone else’s house than I did. So, we decided that I would come too. I knew I risked being called a “helicopter parent,” but my goal was to help, not hover.


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The author’s daughter packed her bag for her sleepover with her friend and both moms.

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I talked to my daughter and asked if she felt OK about me tagging along. To my relief, Aria was happy about this joint opportunity for mommy to come and put a new spin on the term “girls’ night”. She packed her fox-covered suitcase with clothes, her toothbrush, jammies, and way more toys than needed; I packed mine (minus the toys). When Aria and I arrived, she and her friend were thrilled to see each other and set off toward the bedroom to play.

The mom and I enjoyed chatting while the girls stretched slime, built bendable cities, and played pretend. We let them stay up a little later than usual, but nothing extreme. They brushed their teeth side by side in the mirror and got ready to lie down.

Once the girls were asleep, the mom and I each enjoyed a glass of wine and more adult conversation before she retired to her room, and I slept on the couch. All in all, the night went off without a hitch.

Then we switched houses

Months later, we did the same thing at my house. I hosted a sleepover in honor of theLord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring” anniversary (the girls know nothing of Frodo or Mordor, but the mom and I are big fans).

I welcomed them in my Arwen costume, and the girls went off to play. This time, we had a third adult present, who doesn’t have children but loves our girls (and LOTR). The three adults watched some of the trilogy, had some wine, dinner, and conversation.

That night, Aria’s friend tried to sleep in Aria’s trundle bed but soon grew scared, so she went to sleep with her mom instead, who was right there and ready to ease those nighttime fears. The following morning, I made waffles for everyone before we said goodbye and reflected on how much fun the night had been.

Tagging along for sleepovers can be fun for everyone

I think these parent-child sleepovers could be a fresh idea for caregivers and a nice middle ground between spending the night and just having a playdate. I view what we did as a compromise where the child still gets to have an overnight experience, but someone is there in case anything arises.

Admittedly, this might not work for everyone. The mother and I know each other well enough to do this. I also had the good fortune of my daughter being OK with my attendance, so there was no sour mood to spoil the evening. And I have a kid of elementary age — I’m not sure if this would work with a kid in high school.

Some people might think what I did is crazy, but I liked being around if my daughter needed me and being there when she woke up.




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