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I landed a dream job after college, but it was in Seattle, far away from my close-knit family. I felt guilty leaving them behind.

Growing up in the suburbs of southern California, I knew a few things to be true about my family. Most importantly, I knew that all we had were each other. Unlike my friends at school, we did not have any extended family. There were no big Thanksgivings, hangouts with our cousins, or sleepovers at our grandparents’ house.

It was just us four, navigating the differences between the Western culture we lived in and the Eastern culture of our roots.

I grew up in Los Angeles as the eldest daughter of an immigrant family. My parents had left their motherland in search of new possibilities in this one. The only family they would have here was the one that they would go on to create: my little sister and me.

But all that changed when I landed a job in a different city after college.

My parents encouraged me to move

When I received my acceptance letter to a university in Los Angeles, I was reassured that I would not be too far from home. When I was not on campus, I was back in my childhood living room, catching up with my little sister over our favorite boba orders and proudly taking pictures of her high school theater performances. I was playing Chinese checkers with my mom on our dining room table, followed by walking our family pup with my dad under the palm trees.

Meanwhile, in college, my life was actively progressing. By the end of my degree, I landed a dream job that would be the first building block of my future career.

It was based in Seattle.

All my life, my parents had encouraged me to go where the opportunity is. After all, that is what led them to America, where they were able to give their children the childhood they never had. In their eyes, if Seattle was where the opportunity was, that is where I should go.

“The flight is not too far,” my mom said, “but we will miss you.”

I couldn’t shake the guilt of leaving my family

I felt a continuous wave of internal conflict. On one hand, I was excited to experience something new. On the other hand, I felt guilty for leaving my already small family.

When I asked my friends if they ever felt guilty about moving away from home, I was surprised by their responses. For most of them, it never even crossed their minds. They chose to move because they never saw themselves living in the same area they grew up in, and they knew it would not provide the industries they needed.


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The author decided to move to Seattle.

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They took possibly never living near their parents again as a given part of adulthood. Their parents share this belief and, like mine, encouraged them to carve out the life path that best suits them.

Perhaps my guilt stemmed from the fact that I was choosing to leave a city that could potentially offer similar career prospects. Would I feel the same guilt about moving away if my family were located somewhere I did not feel as warmly about?

Eventually, I did talk myself into taking the job. As I settled into Seattle, I thought about how my grandparents felt when their daughter moved across the ocean from China to America. By comparison, my living just a few states away felt minor.

“How did you feel when Mom told you she was considering leaving home?” I asked my grandma over video chat.

“She needed to make her own decisions on what she thought was best for her life, but I did secretly cry about it,” she told me. “I made sure your mother never saw because I did not want it to influence her decision.”

I made the right decision

Beyond my career, living on my own gave me the space to understand myself more deeply. I began sharing my self-discovery journey online with “Eldest Daughter Club” and grew it into a community of other women doing the same. I found different forms of family as I bridged the distance between my own.

I called my family often and planned routine trips back home. Although our in-person time was now more limited, I made sure that a larger percentage of it was true quality time.

Guilt was the feeling that encompassed the discomfort of leaving behind the familial support system that I had always counted on. In the end, support transcends location.

We must all make the decisions on what we think is best for our lives. Guilt is just a signal of what you cherish, but it does not tell your whole story. That is for us to build, wherever we decide to call home.




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My family of 5 went on our first cruise. We had fun, but there are 4 things I wish we’d known before getting on the ship.

2024 was a big year in our household. All three kids were graduating — our oldest from high school and our twins from junior high.

When it came time to celebrate these achievements, we gave them an option. We could throw a party or use the money for an awesome family vacation instead.

So, before our oldest left for college, we came together one last time for a seven-day trip to Alaska on our first-ever cruise.

We were all excited about the idea, and honestly, everyone had a fantastic time. However, I don’t think any of us were completely prepared our first cruising experience.

Here are four things I wish we had known before boarding the Celebrity cruise ship.

Turning our phones on airplane mode would’ve saved us a lot of money

Our phones are such an important part of our lives that it’s almost unheard of to go without them for minutes, let alone days. However, we purposely didn’t purchase the ship’s WiFi package because we wanted a chance to disconnect and enjoy Alaska’s beauty.

What we were unaware of, however, is that once we got away from land, we should’ve put our phones on airplane mode. Since we didn’t, they switched to a service called Cellular at Sea, which uses satellites to keep the phones connected. However, this can be expensive.

Luckily, after racking up $100 in charges within hours of setting sail, AT&T cut my device off until I contacted them. However, this was a costly lesson.

Next time, we’ll be sure to turn on airplane mode and call our cellular provider to talk about cruise packages.

I wish we would’ve known about the formal night


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We’re typically a jeans and T-shirt family. It’s not that we don’t clean up well; it’s just that we don’t do it often. So, a formal night wasn’t even on our radar.

We knew we needed nicer clothing for our dinner reservations on the ship, but we didn’t know that one night, everyone would go all out.

We skipped dinner that night and hit the buffet instead (which, honestly, we did more often than not anyway), and we certainly weren’t the only ones not dressed up.

However, I wish we had known about this in advance, as it would have been exciting to join in on the fun.

Excursions through the cruise line can be expensive


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It’s no secret that cruising can be expensive. So, when it came time to book excursions, we knew they would be pricey. However, we still weren’t prepared for just how pricey they would be.

Luckily, almost every port we stopped at had third-party companies who would pick passengers up at the dock and take them to do fun and exciting things.

For example, being in Alaska, we wanted to learn about and visit a dog-sled team. Although the cruise line offered this experience, we saved more than 50% by booking with an outside party.

However, it’s important to know your schedule and check to make sure the third party will guarantee you’ll be back on time — because if you’re not, the ship won’t wait for you.

Getting a good space on the deck on cruising days can be hard

On the days the ship doesn’t stop at a port, the tables at breakfast, couches by the windows, and lounge chairs by the pool all become valuable real estate.

Instead of waking up early to claim a space near the pool, we chose to sleep in instead. However, because of this, we should’ve been prepared to settle for a less-than-prime space to sit and relax.

Instead of a view of the ocean and the mountains, we got stuck in the middle of the ship near the bathrooms.

Even with these small missteps, none of it was enough to put even the slightest damper on what was a fabulous time aboard our first cruise. The next time we take to the seas, though, we’ll be better prepared for what’s to come.

This story was originally published on January 31, 2025, and most recently updated on February 25, 2026.




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An AI replica of deceased Dilbert cartoonist Scott Adams sparks backlash from his family

Scott Adams once sounded open to the idea of a digital afterlife. Now that he’s passed, social media posts attributed to his family say an AI version of the “Dilbert” creator circulating online is unauthorized — and deeply distressing.

In a 2021 podcast clip, the cartoonist said he granted “explicit permission” for anyone to make a posthumous AI based on him, arguing that his public thoughts and words are “so pervasive on the internet” that he’d be “a good candidate to turn into AI.” He added that he was OK with an AI version of him saying new things after he died, as long as they seemed compatible with what he might say while alive.

Shortly after the 68-year-old’s January death from complications of metastatic prostate cancer, an AI-generated “Scott Adams” account began posting videos of a digital version of the cartoonist speaking directly to viewers about current events and philosophy, mirroring the cadence and topics the actual human Adams discussed for years.

His family says it’s a violation, not a tribute.

A February 5 post on Adams’ official account attributed to his brother, Dave Adams, insisted the cartoonist “never intended, never would have approved an AI version of him that wasn’t authorized by himself or his estate.”

“The real Scott Adams gave explicit permission on the record multiple times for people to create and operate an AI version of him,” the AI Adams said in a post on February 5. “So this iteration exists as a direct fulfillment of that stated wish.”

The official Adams account reiterated the family’s objection on February 17, saying the estate was “kindly but firmly” asking anyone using AI to recreate his voice or likeness to stop, calling the digital replicas a “fabricated version” of Adams that is “deeply distressing.”

“This is not a tribute. It is not an honor. It is an unauthorized use of identity,” the post read.

The Adams estate did not respond to requests for comment from Business Insider. In a Friday interview, the creator of the AI Adams said he’d tried to get in touch with the estate to collaborate on the project, but had been blocked on social media.

“It’s my belief this is something that he wanted,” John Arrow, an AI venture capitalist who created the digital Adams, said. “And I’m not trying to predict what he was thinking. I’m just going by his statements what he what he tweeted over and over and over again. I’ve looked and looked and can find no evidence of any type of revocation. If there was anything that suggested this is what he didn’t want, I would stop.”

The dispute underscores the growing legal and ethical fault lines around “AI afterlives” — and how quickly technology can outpace the rules meant to govern it.

‘It’s a deepfake’

Karen North, a University of Southern California professor specializing in digital social media and psychology, said calling the AI-generated Adams an avatar, as some have online, softens what it is.

“It’s a deepfake,” North told Business Insider.

The troubling part, she said, is how a realistic imitation can surface while a family is grieving and potentially say things the real person never would have said. North added that since many Americans are “giving up so much information” through apps that capture faces and voices and viral quizzes that collect personal details, it is increasingly easy to recreate someone without permission.

“I find it very disturbing,” she said.

Betsy Rosenblatt, an intellectual property lawyer and professor at Case Western Reserve University, said her initial reaction was that the AI Adams would be “unethical in the extreme” unless authorized by Adams himself or his estate after his passing.

“The temporariness of people is part of what makes life special,” she said.

Legally, she said, the central issue is the right of publicity — protections over a person’s name, image, and likeness. Still, those laws are more focused on privacy and economics than on grief.

The right of publicity is “chiefly concerned with economic remedies,” Rosenblatt said.

The strongest claims typically involve money: an AI version could harm existing deals tied to Adams’ identity or block the family from striking their own.

Rosenblatt described two potential economic harms: “One is that it could be harming some financial arrangement that they already have. Another is that it might stand in the way of their making some competitive financial arrangement,” she said.

The legal analysis also hinges on whether the account is commercial. Courts often ask whether the speech proposes a commercial transaction.

If the digital replica isn’t selling anything, Rosenblatt said, it becomes “more likely to be considered a First Amendment protected expression” for the anonymous creator — not a “slam dunk,” but a stronger argument.

The AI Adams identifies itself as artificial intelligence at the start of its clips and does not appear to solicit money. Arrow told Business Insider his plan isn’t to monetize the project or sell products through the AI Adams — in fact, it costs Arrow’s business, Age of AI, about $1,000 to produce each episode — but to ensure the world doesn’t lose “another great intellect.”

“When we have a great mind, and he or she passes away, we lose that person forever,” Arrow said. “AI is giving us a chance to maybe not make them immortal, but at least preserve a lot of their teachings and allow them to adapt and give their insight on new situations.”

Consent isn’t the same as a contract

The estate’s objections sit uneasily alongside Adams’ 2021 comments offering “explicit permission” for AI versions of him. Arrow said the primary reason he chose to recreate Adams, rather than other public or historical figures, was because it seemed clear that he was willing to be immortalized by AI.

North said offhand remarks about technology shouldn’t automatically be treated as binding authorization. Adams was “an incredibly bright, incredibly creative person” who often pushed boundaries, she said, and comments made in conversation “may not be legally binding in ways contracts and intellectual property rights are legally binding.”

“Let this be a warning to all of us: be careful what you say, because he’s now put his loved ones in a difficult position as they protect his legacy,” North said.

Rosenblatt said Adams’ wishes “would certainly matter in an ethical sense,” but may not matter legally “unless he gave somebody the legal rights to do that.”

There is no comprehensive federal law governing posthumous AI likeness, but some states — like New York and California — have recently enacted laws requiring consent from heirs or estate executors before creating digital replicas.

Beyond legal questions lies a deeper ethical one: who controls a person’s persona after they’re gone?

North said people “should own the rights to our own personas,” and when they die, those rights “should go to our loved ones,” not become a free-for-all. AI replicas, she warned, can drift off-brand or reshape public memory.

“Shakespeare should always sound like Shakespeare,” she said. “Dr. Seuss should always sound like Dr. Seuss.”

For now, the AI “Scott Adams” fight is one family’s public line-drawing exercise. It may also be a preview of a broader reckoning in a world where convincing digital imitations are easy to make — and where the law is still struggling to answer who gets to decide whether the dead keep talking online.




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The biggest scandals of the British royal family

The two-hour primetime special was full of stunning revelations.

Markle told Winfrey that Kate Middleton made her cry the week of her wedding over a flower girl dress and not the other way around, as had been reported in tabloids. She also said members of the royal family had “concerns and conversations” about how dark Archie’s skin would be before he was born, and The Firm told them that Archie wouldn’t receive a title or security, breaking from protocol.

She also opened up about having suicidal thoughts amid constant tabloid criticism and racism, and said a senior member of the royal institution wouldn’t let her seek help.

Harry revealed that his family cut him off financially in the first quarter of 2020, and that Charles stopped taking his phone calls before they announced they were stepping back from the royal family. He also said that it hurts that the royal family never acknowledged tabloids’ racist treatment of Markle, and that none of the royal family members have reached out to apologize for the reasons he felt he had to leave.

Following the interview, Buckingham Palace released a statement on behalf of the Queen.

“The whole family is saddened to learn the full extent of how challenging the last few years have been for Harry and Meghan,” the statement read.

“The issues raised, particularly that of race, are concerning. Whilst some recollections may vary, they are taken very seriously and will be addressed by the family privately. 

“Harry, Meghan, and Archie will always be much loved family members.”




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Three generations live next door — and it’s helping this family afford both housing and elder care

Lauren McCadney had always wanted to live next door to friends or family. In her late 50s, she finally made that happen, though not the way she’d planned.

In 2020, Lauren’s mother, who had been living with her brother and his family in Frederick, Maryland, died. Lauren, who was going through a difficult divorce and doesn’t have children, decided she wanted to be closer to her family and help her brother care for their dad, who was dealing with his own health challenges.

In 2021, she moved from her home in Chicago to Maryland, renting a house a few blocks away from her brother, James, her sister-in-law, Lorri, and twin 20-year-old nephews, Drew and Carter. In 2023, the five-bedroom house next door to James and Lorri went on the market, and Lauren bought it and moved in with her sister, Cheryl.


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Seven family members across three generations live next door.

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Now the seven family members live between the two houses, sharing caregiving responsibilities for James Sr., the family patriarch, and forming what they call a family compound.

Multigenerational living was once the norm in the US. Before World War II, it was almost unheard of for older adults to live independently or to receive care outside their families, while younger people often waited until marriage to move out. That changed for millions of American families as they lived farther apart, independent living services for older people became more accessible, and more women joined the workforce.

Now, as the costs of housing, long-term care for seniors, and childcare soar, that trend is beginning to reverse. The McCadneys are one of a growing number of American families moving back in together — or never separating in the first place. The number of people in the US living in multigenerational households — those with two or more adult generations — quadrupled between 1971 and 2021, according to Pew Research.

“I feel very blessed and fortunate that we have the situation we have,” Lauren said, “because I have friends who are the primary solo caregiver, and that is hard.”


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The McCadneys split caregiving duties and expenses.

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Sharing caregiving and expenses

The McCadney family splits caregiving duties — and everyone saves money in their arrangement.

Lauren, who retired from her career in tech marketing in 2024, renovated her house to suit her family’s needs, refinishing the basement into a separate living space for Cheryl and making the first floor accessible for their father, who has a neurological condition that makes walking difficult and affects his memory.

Cheryl, who pays below-market rent, takes care of Lauren’s dog while she’s on vacation. Their brother manages most of their father’s personal and medical care, while Cheryl spends a lot of time with him during the day. Lauren likes to take her father, who uses a scooter, to restaurants, breweries, and concerts.

When any family member goes on vacation or is otherwise occupied, they know another family member will be there to take care of the elder James.

By not putting the elder James in assisted living or a nursing home, the family is saving significant sums. “Unless you’re a billionaire, I don’t think that most people have the luxury of saying cost is not a consideration,” Lauren said.


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The family is saving a significant amount of money by taking care of the elder James at home.

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They also appreciate the peace of mind that comes from knowing their dad is being cared for by family. Plus, James Sr. wasn’t keen on moving into a facility.

“We know that he’s going to get much better care, and from a socialization perspective, from a stimulation perspective, from having a reason to get out of bed perspective,” Lauren said. “That’s something you cannot put a price on.”

Drew and Carter, who save on rent by living at home, also chip in, including by helping Lauren. They mow their aunt’s lawn, give her rides to the airport, and recently drove her to and from eye surgery.

“I do love that my boys have lived their formative years in a multigenerational household,” said Lorri, who’s a teacher. “It is, hopefully, clear to them that love is an action.”

Navigating challenges and an uncertain future

There are real challenges with caring for an aging family member. The siblings don’t have as much flexibility or privacy as they otherwise would. Cheryl said that before she moved in with Lauren, she “had grown accustomed to living alone and having flexibility to decide when to or not to interact with others.” Living with family has changed that.


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The family aims to strike a balance between all three generations.

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James and Lorri are sandwiched between caring for their kids and their parents, all while juggling full-time jobs. Even as the couple is on the precipice of becoming empty-nesters, they’re responsible for someone who’s ever more dependent on them.

“I know there are times when James is exhausted and or frustrated,” Lorri said, “and as his wife, that’s hard to watch.”

James, who works for Maryland’s Department of Human Services, said there’s a constant balance to strike in doing right by all of his family members.

“Am I taking anything away from my children, or did I take anything away from them?” he said. “We hope that we’re doing all the right things.”


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Multigenerational living is on the rise.

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The McCadneys don’t know how long they’ll stay where they are. Lauren’s house requires a lot of maintenance that she’d rather not have to deal with as she ages. Lorri and James hope to someday downsize and spend more time at the beach in their travel trailer. As long as the elder James is living with them, the couple said they’ll stay in their home.

Lauren doesn’t know who will take care of her when she’s older. She and her friends talk about buying a piece of land and building several small homes on it, creating their own communal living arrangement where they could share a caregiver and help each other out.

“A lot of my friends are sitting around right now having this conversation, which is, ‘We don’t have kids, who’s taking care of us? How do we do this?'” she said.

While so much about the future is uncertain, she’s taking one day at a time for now.

“I’m just happy that everything works for right now,” she said.




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Coming off your parents’ family phone plan doesn’t make you an adult

Before you yell at me, let me first say that I am not, and have never been, on my parents’ cellphone plan. (I didn’t get a cellphone until I was already an adult.) But I’ve long been jealous of my friends who are still on their parents’ plans — it just makes good sense!

Yahoo News recently asked whether staying on your parents’ phone plan as a 40-year-old makes you “a harmless mooch or a generational failure?”

The reporter, Fortesa Latifi, admits that she and her husband were still on their parents’ plans until recently, and that many others are like her, some even with children of their own, and quite a few feel embarrassed about it.

There are significant savings to be had by joining a family plan. For example, right now, at T-Mobile, its unlimited talk, text, and data plan costs $85 for an individual plan. For a family of four, the same plan is around $42 per person.

Why are family plans so much cheaper per line? It’s not that there are a lot more costs to operate cell service if a phone number isn’t connected to a family plan. It’s all about how advantageous it is for the carrier to sell family plans.

For one thing, if you’re part of a family plan, you’re less likely to shop around and switch carriers. It’s also easier on the carrier’s customer service: They only have to mail bills, process credit cards each month, and all that jazz for one person instead of several. (Verizon and T-Mobile didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment on their pricing.)

Last year, AT&T added a new feature that makes it easier to automatically split the bill for people who share a friends-and-family account. The person whose name is on the bill is still ultimately responsible for the full amount, so enter into this kind of arrangement only with people you really trust.

AT&T pointed me to a news story published last year that quoted an exec saying 85% of their customers were on a multi-line plan. Think about that — that means if you actually are one of the suckers who is paying for a single line, you’re in the vast minority.

There’s no honor in paying more to have the bill in your own name — you’re just paying more for the same services. Does your dignity and independence win out here, or does T-Mobile? Hmm?

Does having your own cellphone line make you an adult?

AT&T released its own study (so take it with a grain of salt) that said that 76% of Americans think that coming off a parent’s cellphone plan is one of the “ultimate signs” of becoming an adult.

Sure, at first glance, this seems like a rite of passage into financial independence from your parents.

Is it a smart financial choice?

Consider that the T-Mobile plan — even if you paid back your mom each month for your portion of the phone bill, you’d be saving about $42.50 a month compared to the same service on an individual plan. That’s $5,100 over a decade if you did it from age 22 to 32.

In fact, I’d say that part of becoming an adult is being smart about spending habits and money. And sticking to a family plan is the obviously wise choice.

If you choose to remove yourself from a family plan, you’re just giving the cellphone carriers twice as much — and I see little glory or pride in that.

Look, of course, this all depends on your relationship with your family. You may not want to have this financial tie to them, and you may be in a better financial situation than your parents. But bundling phone lines with other people, whether they’re your family or just some friends, makes a lot of financial sense.

Millennials, it’s time to take pride in one smart financial decision that our generation is making. Embrace it! Be proud to be on a family plan!




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A GoFundMe was set up for James Van Der Beek’s family — ‘the extended fight against cancer have left the family out of funds’

Actor James Van Der Beek’s wife, Kimberly, appears to have backed a GoFundMe in the wake of the “Dawson’s Creek” actor’s death on Wednesday from colorectal cancer.

The campaign — shared on both James and Kimberly’s Instagram stories — states the mother of the star’s six kids as the organizer.

The initiative, which had raised over $598,000 toward the 1 million target by 7:30 p.m., primarily called for donations to help cover 48-year-old Van Der Beek’s medical bills.

“In the wake of this loss, Kimberly and the children are facing an uncertain future,” the text of the GoFundMe said. “The costs of James’s medical care and the extended fight against cancer have left the family out of funds.”

It said the bereaved family is “working hard to stay in their home and to ensure the children can continue their education and maintain some stability during this incredibly difficult time.”

Van Der Beek’s wife announced his death on Instagram

The appeal went on to say that financial support from others would make a “world of difference” as Van Der Beek’s loved ones “navigate the road ahead.”

The money raised was said to help fund the family’s living expenses, pay bills, and support the kids’ education.

“Every donation, no matter the size, will help Kimberly and her family find hope and security as they rebuild their lives,” the GoFundMe said.

In her Instagram story, Kimberly wrote, “My friends created this link to support me and our children during this time. With gratitude and a broken heart.”


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A spokesperson for GoFundMe told Business Insider, “We are working with the organizer to ensure funds safely reach the intended beneficiary.”

They added, “Funds are being held safely by our payment processor in the meantime.”

Kimberly announced her husband’s death on Instagram, saying, “Our beloved James David Van Der Beek passed peacefully this morning.

“He met his final days with courage, faith, and grace. There is much to share regarding his wishes, love for humanity, and the sacredness of time. Those days will come.

“For now we ask for peaceful privacy as we grieve our loving husband, father, son, brother, and friend.”

2 months ago, the star said he felt ‘strong’

Van Der Beek received his cancer diagnosis three years ago. He made his final public appearance on NBC in December when he seemed optimistic about his health.

“I feel much, much better than I did a couple months ago,” Van Der Beek told interviewer Craig Melvin.

He added, “It’s been a longer journey than I ever thought it would be. It’s required more of me — more patience, more discipline, more strength than I knew I had. I knew I was strong — I didn’t know I was this strong.”

The same month, the 90s heartthrob auctioned off personal memorabilia from the filming of “Dawson’s Creek” to help his family and meet bills for his cancer treatment.




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Savannah Guthrie says family ‘will pay’ for their mother’s return in video plea to possible kidnapper

Savannah Guthrie has made a direct plea to her mother’s potential abductor: “We will pay.”

In a new, 20-second video posted on her Instagram account on Saturday, Guthrie said her family had received someone’s “message” and were begging for the return of her mother, Nancy Guthrie, 84, who has been reported missing since Sunday.

“We received your message, and we understand,” Guthrie said, sitting between her two siblings in the video. “We beg you now to return our mother to us so that we can celebrate with her. This is the only way we will have peace. This is very valuable to us, and we will pay.”

Guthrie did not identify a specific individual. It’s also unclear what message Guthrie was referring to.

The Pima County Sheriff’s Department and the FBI said in a statement on Friday that they were aware of a new message regarding Nancy Guthrie.

“Investigators are actively inspecting the information provided in the message for its authenticity,” the sheriff’s department wrote.

A spokesperson for the Pima County Sheriff’s Department did not immediately respond to a request for comment. An FBI spokesperson said the agency did not have further information to provide.

There have been reports of multiple ransom notes. Federal officials arrested a California man on Thursday, accusing him of sending a fake ransom note to the Guthrie family.

Officials have not identified a suspect but have said that the incident may have involved a kidnapping or abduction.

Guthrie’s mother was last seen at her home located just outside Tucson.

Authorities said blood confirmed to belong to the elder Guthrie was found on the porch, and the doorbell camera had been disconnected, leaving investigators without crucial evidence.

Her daughter, a veteran news anchor of nearly three decades, said that her mother’s health is “fragile” and requires daily medication.

“We are ready to talk. However, we live in a world where voices and images are easily manipulated,” the younger Guthrie said in a video posted on Wednesday. “We need to know, without a doubt, that she is alive, and that you have her. We want to hear from you, and we are ready to listen. Please, reach out to us.”




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My rare plants sell for five figures. The business helps me support my extended family, but I work about 100 hours a week.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Harry Luu, owner of PlantZaddyTherapy. It has been edited for length and clarity.

I’ve always been a gardener and enjoyed being around plants. While I was in graduate school studying math, my collection of houseplants grew. There’s an attention to detail and a hyperfocus that I found in both mathematics and plants, so my hobby complemented my academic career.

During the pandemic, my interest in rare plants blew up. I started getting a bigger collection and trading up for more valuable plants.

Eventually, my hobby transformed into a business. I finished my graduate degree and started teaching math in California, but three years ago, I left academia to sell plants full-time.

My academic career was a safety net for my family of 8

I grew up in Vietnam, and I’m the embodiment of the American dream for my family. They put all their eggs in my basket, which allowed me to come to America and study. Now, I feel it’s fair to return their investment. I support not only myself and my husband, but also my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law, my niece, and my nephew.

Leaving my job while supporting a family of eight in California might seem risky, but it was calculated. I had reached the point where I saw the potential for financial freedom from investments I had made during grad school that had very good returns. I had years of data on plant sales, and also knew I could return to academia if needed, so I had a safety net.

I price based on rarity and desirability, without going too high

I was already connected to the rare plant community, so selling increasingly expensive plants felt like a natural progression. I grew my platform on Palmstreet, an online marketplace.

This year, I had two record-breaking sales in one day. I sold a $16,000 plant (an Anthurium Variegated Forgetii x Heinz, one of only two in the world), then a $26,000 plant (the only specimen of the True Variegated Lux Albo Mother Plant).


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A $16,000 plant sold on Palmstreet by Harry Luu

Courtesy of Palmstreet



I’m a math person, so I use a formula to price. I calculate rarity and desirability and compare them with price data from the previous three years. These plants were both very rare and highly desirable, which drove prices up. However, I didn’t want to price them too high, because I’m thinking about the long-term viability for my brand: people have to be able to purchase what I’m selling. Given how rare the plants were, their five-figure prices weren’t too big a splash.

I want to be able to connect with the community more

Despite those big numbers, the business’s income fluctuates dramatically. My best single week was over $200,000 in sales, but other weeks I might have no sales. The market is seasonal, and winter is slow. I’ve had to adapt to not having a steady, reliable income.

The money comes and goes, but the work never stops. Right now, I spend about 100 hours a week on the business. We have plants in our home, and also a large greenhouse on our property. My brother does some of the maintenance care for the plants, but all the breeding decisions are made by me.

I’m on the cusp of the company being able to sustain itself without me working so much. I look forward to that — when I can step back from the business side and focus more on the joy of growing. I would like to share my knowledge about rare plants and take the plants on the road to connect with my community more, since that’s what got me hooked on growing in the first place.




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A family built a multigenerational home in Oregon that’s basically 2 houses connected by a hallway

Ochoa thinks of her parents’ side of the house as a distinct home.

“Once you hit that door, you basically walk into a whole separate house,” Ochoa said. “They also have the open concept, and I feel like their side feels a lot bigger than it is because of that.”

Their space has a living room, kitchen, an office, and a half bathroom in addition to their primary suite. They don’t have a separate dining area, but they have a table big enough for four people to eat.

The entire home is also mostly ADA accessible, which may come in handy as everyone ages.

“All of our doorways throughout the entire house are wider than standard doorways,” Ochoa said. Their showers are also wheelchair accessible. No one in their family needs the accessibility at the moment, but they wanted the home to suit their needs, no matter what.

“We’re not planning on moving,” Ochoa said. “I didn’t build this house for nothing.”




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